Coping with Family Law proceedings in a pandemic

13 January, 2021

Let’s be honest, 2020 was a tough year, and whilst there are seeds of hope for 2021, lockdown has meant a challenging start. If you’re going through a relationship breakdown and associated legal proceedings, perhaps in relation to your children, now, more than ever, you need to look after yourself.

Divorce comes in at number 2 on the list of the top 10 most stressful life events, second only to the death of a spouse or child. There is good reason for this, as it is a life changing event which can leave you feeling exhausted, frustrated and concerned about your future.

Here are some tips to help you make it through:

  • Make sure you have someone to talk to. This could be a tricky one now we’re in our third lockdown and being physically present with someone is more difficult and could actually be illegal in most circumstances, but the raft of technology like Zoom, Teams, FaceTime, Skype etc is there to help with this. Whether you are speaking to a friend or family member or a counsellor, it’s helpful to share your feelings in order that you can process them effectively and focus on taking a pragmatic approach to your dispute. I often recommend that my clients see a counsellor as I think it is so important to be able to grieve the end of the relationship in an entirely safe space. 
  • Take care of yourself. If you have children they will likely be the top of your priority list right now, but make sure you are a very close second. Look after your physical and emotional needs, whether that’s taking the time to go for a run or walk, or relaxing with a good book or boxset (and a glass of wine!). You are going to need energy and stamina for your legal proceedings, so looking after yourself is vital.
  • Focus on what you can control. With the breakdown of a relationship naturally comes with it a loss of control, and this can often send people into a tailspin of anxiety and worry. A hard reality is that you can’t control what your ex-partner does, and acknowledging this at the outset can be really helpful in enabling you to stay balanced emotionally.
  • Remember that it will have an end point. At some point your legal proceedings will end and life will get back to ‘normal’, though this may not be the same normal as before.

Here at Cripps Pemberton Greenish we understand the impact that the breakdown of a relationship can have on all aspects of your life, and we work with you to help make those transitions as smooth as possible. We are always here to talk to our clients and pride ourselves on being a source of support in tough times. If you wish to discuss how we can help you then please contact Claire Tollefson on 01892 506191 or Claire.tollefson@crippspg.co.uk.